There is a lot more to being parents than just diapers, nap time and snacks. The feelings you had before children came along between you and your partner often included butterflies when they walk into the room, or excitement to see them again after a week of being apart doesn’t have to go away when you have children.
When you have children it doesn’t mean the excitement and romance in your relationship disappears. That’s why you still need to date. Those silly dates that you thought were leading up the taking your relationship to the next step and to get to know the love of your life don’t just stop. Once you’ve gotten to those steps you still need to date to keep that spark alive.
15. Fuel The Fire
Dating after children will help you fuel the fire of love. Bringing the romance back into your relationship will help you remember why you are together in the first place. Going on dates and recreating the romance will help you to remember that your spouse is more than just your roommate.
14. Grow Closer
As close as you think you already are, you can always get closer. Going on dates will allow the both of you to experience new things with each other again. Just because you have gone through the main “firsts,” doesn’t mean you are finished. There is always something new you can experience together. As you laugh and experience new things, you grow closer together with each experience.
Going on dates reminds you where your priorities stand. They rekindle the feelings you have for your spouse and show you that they still are the one of the most important things in your life.
Communication is a big part of a relationship without it you will lose touch and become disjointed. The dates will allow both of you time to just sit and talk. You can find out how your partner is feeling and vice-versa. Communication is what helps you build a strong relationship and helps you to figure out if your spouse is unhappy or if they or you feel unwanted. Going on dates allows a window for you to talk about anything and everything.
The novelty of dating should never wear off. Fun and excitement is a big part of being together, and you can have fun together without having to watch Thomas the Train or play in a sandbox. You can share the experiences and the more you do together, the stronger the bond you have. While going out, you can hike or dance or travel or just play card games. Maybe split the interests so one time you choose and the other, your spouse chooses, that way neither of you gets left out or feels taken for granted.
10. Strengthen Commitments
The dates you go on show you are still committed to your spouse. It shows that you are still willing to make an effort and be with them instead of someone else. According to a report released by the National Marriage Project, “Partners who put one another first, who steer clear of other romantic opportunities who cultivate a strong sense of ‘we-ness’ or togetherness are markedly happier than are less-committed couples.”
9. Relieve Stress
While you are out on a date you get to enjoy time with your spouse without having to worry or stress about ordinary life. The date is meant to be relaxing and it allows you to extend emotional support to your spouse and shows that you can forget about the real world for at least an hour.
8. A Break From “Doing”
In our busy lifestyles, we are always doing something, whether it is work, cleaning, or just doing something around the house. We rarely have time to relax, so the dates can be your break. It can be your breather between life where you can just be with each other without worrying about everything else.
7. Childfree Conversation
As much as you love your children, everyone needs to have some adult time. This time will remind why you chose to be with your spouse in the first place. If the only person you are talking to is a 3-year-old and there is no adult-time, resentment and unhappiness can grow. The time away from the children allows you to remember what being a human being feels like. It also allows you to focus on each other without any other distractions so you can reconnect.
Keeping intimacy in a relationship is one of the most challenging tasks especially with children, so having a date night will help keep that alive. Even if you have only been together for 10 months or 20 years, intimacy places a large role in a relationship’s happiness and success. Those dates will give you little bits of intimacy back that you probably never even thought you had lost.
5. Reminds You of Earlier Days
Going on dates can be a great way to bring up happy memories. They can remind you of the “good ol’ days” when life was good and you had little responsibilities. Those memories might even remind you of something you wanted to do when you were young that you had forgot about until now. Those old places you used to go could revive the butterflies and the days when you just couldn’t stop touching each other even if it was just holding hands.
4. Excuse To Dress Up
A date can be the perfect excuse that gets you out of those sweats. You can get all dolled up and feel good about yourself. The both of you can dress up and wow each other with how great you still look. You can wear an old dress and remind yourselves of the first time you saw each other. Or you both could go out and buy something new, something to rebuild, and recreate the feelings of love at first sight.
3. Have double dates
Going on dates also allows you to also reconnect with old friends or even new ones. You can go on double dates and share memories and stories with another couple. Building friendships with your spouse can help build your relationship while you are being social.
2. Gives you something to look forward to
By Wednesday, you’re tired and over the week, so if you schedule a date night for the weekend, it helps the week go by faster. You can get excited and it makes the week worth it. The excitement will also recreate those early feelings of butterflies.